So many people mistake intensity for intimacy, and so their relationship begins at high speed and then they experience the painful crash and burn that inevitably ensues. Intensity, as lovely as i...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/podcast-ep-123-the-5-stages-of-relationships/
“He/she made such a good effort at the start.” “It seemed so promising.” “I’ve given up so much.” These are common reasons that are used to justify remaining in a relationship that�...
Over the years, many a reader has claimed that they’ve been emotionally available to an emotionally unavailable partner. Here’s the thing: If we are truly emotionally available and want to ke...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/weve-got-to-stop-procrastinating-in-unavailable-relationships/
When I overheard a friend advising a business associate to stop solely focusing on the initial money spent on a business venture and to address the real issues and decisions at hand first, I thou...
One of the biggest fears people in unhealthy relationships have, is that if they call it as they see it and opt out, that maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow but soon or possibly in 2025, this pe...
I’ve heard from more than a few readers recently who are feeling resentful after being in a relationship where they feel that they gave and gave and gave and that they got nothing or very littl...
In this excerpt from the new edition of Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, I explain the very tricky territory of fixing, healing and helping and how your need to be needed and trying to be th...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/excerpt-from-mr-unavailable-the-fallback-girl-renovators-florences/
If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship long past its sell by date, you’ll have worried about what you’ve ‘put in’ and become focused on getting a return on investment. Instead of think...
Last year I wrote about when we try to get people to make us the exception to their rule of behaviour, which is in essence the foundation of every relationship where you stay with someone who has...
1. If you can’t date with self-esteem, boundaries, and values, don’t date until you can because not only will you feel fleeting highs and plenty of lows, but the absence of these things makes...
Yesterday in part one, I explained why wondering or questioning whether a man is going to leave his wife or girlfriend for you can put you in a precarious position because it means that the way t...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/is-he-going-to-leave-his-wifegirlfriend-for-me-part-two/
Right now, there are thousands of ‘ladies in waiting’ in relationships; women who are willing, waiting, and hoping that the guy they’re with, will leave their girlfriend or wife. ‘Is he g...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/is-he-going-to-leave-her-for-me-part-one/
A couple of years ago, I received an email from Baggage Reclaim reader RES thanking me for writing this site, and letting me know that in spite of the painful revelations that resulted from readi...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/guest-post-a-journey-from-pain-to-self-love/
Yesterday in part one, I explained about how we often base our thinking about what’s likely to happen in our relationships based on exceptions and anomalies instead of the reality. Part of this...
I’ve finally gotten around to reading Superfreakonomics, the follow-up to the bestselling Freakonomics. Pitched as a “rogue economist explores the hidden side of everything”, authors Steven...