A recruiter is someone whose job is to match qualified candidates with suitable open positions at organisations. If they put any ole candidate forward for the role, they do everyone a disservice ...
When we’re not used to letting our real selves hang out, voicing our needs, and creating healthy boundaries, it’s not unusual to assume that if we’re really into someone and we have ‘so m...
People often ask me why I emphasise the values of love, care, trust and respect rather than, say, compassion, empathy, loyalty or even attraction. When you prioritise love, care, trust and respec...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/green-light-what-truly-matters/
Nobody knows what your boundaries are until you convey them through your actions.So many people have asked me variations of “I’ve been on a few dates with someone and I really like them, but ...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/explaining-boundary-issues-to-a-date-will-only-violate-you-further/
When it comes to dating, we find it difficult to listen to ourselves. This is despite the fact that we’re either in the presence of a stranger or even if we know them somewhat, we don’t have ...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/pay-attention-to-bad-vibes-and-red-flags-on-those-early-dates/
What if part of our growth, happiness and healing (and that of others), is letting go when a relationship stands in the way of this? How differently would we view breakups or recognising incompa...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/this-is-why-not-letting-go-blocks-our-happiness-and-growth/
It’s time for another episode of Why Did We Break Up?. Swept off her feet by her co-worker Andrew, when Zoe’s 23-year marriage ended abruptly, she moved in with him weeks later, not realising...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/podcast-ep-59-why-did-we-break-up-a-rolling-stone-gathers-no-moss/
Something I’ve noticed when I listen to people describing their relationships is that they talk about what the person does and often link it to what a previous partner wasn’t doing. “They t...
Have you ever had that disconcerting experience of being accused of something you haven’t done and it turns out that the person is in essence, working up a case against you because they have do...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/dodging-peoples-projections-its-not-about-us-really/
Any toxic relationship I’ve been involved in has always kept going because of my essentially cherry-picking what I wanted to remember about the person and the relationship, romantic or otherwis...
While reading a few reader stories of pain mixed in with good points, I was struck by the thought, Do these people realise that everything about their relationships is about reinforcing and even ...
Some of our strongest ties to even the flimsiest of relationships are based on what we experienced or even hoped for in the beginning. When we’re living in the past because the present has too ...
We tend to reflect more at this time of year because we look back over the year and compare it with the previous one, remember highlights and low points of each year, and think about the year ahe...
I’ve dealt with a company for several years and at first, they were alright, probably because I didn’t need as much back then and didn’t expect that much either. Over the years, though, the...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/theres-a-cost-to-leaving-but-theres-also-a-cost-to-staying/
On Sunday I turned 36, which I celebrated with a party on Saturday. As it turned midnight, I was singing Return of the Mack on the karaoke machine (we have a Lucky Voice set which means we can ha...