Many believe they are in a loving relationship with potential because they have met their date’s (or partner’s) friends or parents. For them, people only introduce romantic partners to their ...
If you’ve ever experienced self-doubt, confusion, disappointment and a sense of rejection after someone said or did things that intimated or outright promised a future that didn’t materialise...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/podcast-ep-223-the-gaslighting-of-future-faking/
Being on the receiving end of not just someone’s intense interest in and attraction to us, but their seeming desire to jump into a relationship, can be pretty intoxicating. The intensity create...
Something that makes us nervous is when someone appears to be a little (or a lot) too perfect. Things are so great, so impressive, so much of what we want or hope to get that we find it difficult...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/podcast-ep-211-too-good-to-be-true/
I think it’s fairly safe to say that being lied to, especially when we’ve doubted the hell out of ourselves to believe the person in question, cuts deep. All past experiences of honesty (and ...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/podcast-ep-140-the-truth-about-lies/
Picture it, Sharm El Sheikh, Egypt, 2005 (pulling my best Sophia from Golden Girls imitation). It’s just one month the epiphany that changed my life and a couple of months before I started Bagg...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/they-didnt-change-you-just-got-to-know-them/
Have you ever spent time with somebody who gives amazing date, yet afterwards, it’s crickets? I did that on and off for four years. If you’d met us on dates, you’d be forgiven for thinking ...
Alison asks: I recently visited a friend I hadn’t seen in twenty years. We had the briefest of hook-ups a long time ago that I vaguely remember as him not being able to ‘perform’, but it wa...
It’s time for a Why Did We Break Up? episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. It’s really confusing when a brief relationship still affects us for quite some time afterwards. When it feels as...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/podcast-ep-49-why-did-we-break-up-5-let-me-in/
It’s time for the weekly episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. Remember in episode 7 when I faced my fear of confrontation and told my mama that we’re doing our own thing for Chris...
Have you ever been on the best date ever or best few dates ever, only to be unceremoniously blanked afterwards despite promises of another date? This person wanted to leave you with a really good...
Any toxic relationship I’ve been involved in has always kept going because of my essentially cherry-picking what I wanted to remember about the person and the relationship, romantic or otherwis...
One of the most popular subjects on Baggage Reclaim is the area of when people overestimate their capacity to be or do something, or overestimate their level of interest. When done habitually whe...
So many people who feel twitchy about commitment say stuff like, “Natalie, it’s too much to expect somebody to know if they want to commit in the early stages of the a relationship”, which ...
Awareness of how we truly want to feel and the path we want to walk is crucial for ensuring that we don’t be and do things that inadvertently take us away from those very things. Too often, we ...