My Tales of Life and Love After Divorce

My one-year anniversary with Rick is tomorrow, which inspired me to write a long-overdue blog entry about my love life. IN 2014, I WAS AT PEACE WITH MY DIVORCE AND READY TO FIND A RELATIONSHIP ....

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2016/04/divorced-kat-swipes-right-and-finds.html

I am 35 years old and I have only been someone’s girlfriend twice in my life. The first time was in 1998. I was a senior in high school and dating Dave, an absolute sweetheart. I lost my vir...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/06/a-horse-wins-race-guy-wins-my-heart.html

Well, this is an interesting twist of events. I like a guy. Like for real. Like we hold hands and have sleepovers and we have made each other dinner. He calls me “baby” and it doesn’t ma...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/06/the-art-of-dating-someone-who-is-not-my.html

Non sequitur: Here's why I'm asking you to log in with Facebook . As I sat in the Munich airport after Melanie dropped me off, I thought about how much saying goodbye sucks. Melanie and I ...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/05/the-very-worst-kinds-of-goodbyes.html

I am writing from one of my bestest friend's guest room in her home outside Munich, Germany! My love affair with carbs goes international. Leading up to this trip, I had a busy week with t...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/05/do-you-miss-me-ill-be-back-soon.html

Dear reader, If you’re a returning reader of my blog, I love you!, and allow me to explain the new Facebook login. As you might remember, I have had some issues in the past with people fr...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/04/want-to-know-why-you-have-to-log-in.html

It started off innocently enough. On Friday after work , Yoshi , Connor , and I were going to happy hour at our neighborhood bar. “Now, Yoshi, I only want like one glass of wine. Two at the...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/04/from-happy-hour-to-lap-dance-how-i.html

Here's my big sister and me chilling with my beloved godfather. (Notice the beer and cigarettes behind me!) IN 1980, MY CATHOLIC PARENTS ASKED THEIR FRIEND OF A COUPLE OF YEARS, FRANK, TO B...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/03/im-going-to-be-fabulous-godmother.html

> Do not squander time for that is the stuff life is made of. >  -Ben Franklin I LOATHE WASTING TIME. Life can be wickedly and deliciously unpredictable, and I want to use every...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/03/time-to-stop-gambling-my-precious-time.html

My ex-husband, Max, has brown eyes and long, black eyelashes. (I always said those eyelashes were wasted on a man.) Through our eight years together, I saw his eyes light up with joy. I saw them...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/03/the-moment-when-your-ex-husband-tells.html

On their first date, my friend Tina’s now boyfriend asked her a big question: “WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF IN FIVE YEARS?” Much to her credit, she told him the truth, that she plans to...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/03/do-you-have-five-year-plan-i-dont.html

My real life friends and today a Twitter follower ask me: HOW DOES ONE DO A BOOTY CALL? I admit to having a fair amount of experience in this area since my sexless marriage ended two years ...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/02/how-to-have-fun-safe-booty-call-if-you.html

You don't need a valentine to enjoy Valentine’s Day. I realized this in high school, and many crushes and flings, two boyfriends, and one (ex) husband later, it’s still true: VALENTINE�...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/02/cards-candy-and-booze-why-i-love.html

“For what it’s worth, I think we could’ve been a fucking cool couple.”  I'm going to go tease my hair and sing into a fan until I feel better. And then we hung up. But I know...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/02/for-what-its-worth-i-think-we-couldve.html

I am ready for a relationship, and I don’t apologize for it. Hell, I'm proud of it! It’s taken a lot of post-divorce healing/therapy/yoga plus a healthy dose of pointless – but fun! �...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/01/im-not-afraid-to-dump-guy-i-really-like.html

Is your wedding ring off, like really off, not even trying it on once in awhile when no one’s around? Are you past the point of bursting into tears driving home from work? Are you curious to s...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/01/what-happened-when-i-got-brave-about.html

I’m really good at first and second dates. Hell, I’m pretty solid on the third date, upon the rare occasion that I have one. I know just enough about current events and sports headlines so I...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/01/how-do-you-cross-gap-from-dating-to.html

I was checking out Men's Divorce , a resource tailored to men's questions and issues surrounding divorce. Long story short, I connected with the editor, and we thought it could be interesting and...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/01/mens-divorce-interviews-me.html

I used to fear that my “DIVORCED” label would make people – especially potential suitors – judge me. Commitment issues. Baggage. Damaged goods. Recently I have been wondering about th...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2015/01/in-dating-world-which-is-more-dangerous.html

On this last day of 2014, I thank you for hanging out with me for another year of my life post-divorce, including reliving old pain with my ex, my happy times with friends and family, and my se...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2014/12/thanks-for-reading-my-top-10-posts-of.html

New Year’s Eve is a week away, so like many people over the age of 25, I haven’t a clue how I’ll be ringing in 2015. (Remember when you used to start planning the NYE festivities in Octobe...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2014/12/what-was-your-most-miserable-new-years.html

“SHE’S REALLY… EASY.” Yoshi, Meredith, and I were at happy hour, asking our friend Connor about his trip to Asia. Connor and his girlfriend had spent two weeks hopping planes and f...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2014/12/being-easygoing-wife-helped-destroy-my.html

As I look back on my dating experiences in 2014, I have discovered a theme:  I acted too hastily. I’m sorry. I was selfish. I’m sorry. I regret letting it end like that. I’M SORRY...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2014/12/dear-guys-who-dumped-me-stop-apologizing.html

It’s been 43 days since I broke my kneecap . My knee is bigger than my quad! Waaahhhhh! 43 days since I have shaved or properly bathed my left leg. 43 days since I slept on my side or...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2014/11/7-reasons-why-im-grateful-for-my-broke.html

"Wanna go out, Kat? I'll drive!" After weeks of texting  and FaceTime chats with Lucas , we finally saw each other again. Last Sunday and then again on Friday, Lucas came over. (I’m st...

http://www.divorcedkat.com/2014/11/why-did-i-dump-smart-cute-guy-who.html