Asking for or just straight up needing help and support doesn’t make us weak; it makes us human. Always being the giver or everything having to be transactional where we see people as a means ...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/even-if-youre-the-strong-one-you-need-help-and-support-too/
Commitment to self is one of the four qualities of a loving partner, along with emotionally available, ownership, and a positive outlook. A partner with commitment to self, likes, knows and trust...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/commitment-to-self-is-one-of-the-keys-to-being-a-loving-partner/
When someone is emotionally available, they feel and know their feelings instead of avoiding all or some to limit vulnerability. It’s not that we know every feeling at every moment; that’s no...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-does-it-mean-to-be-emotionally-available/
Trust is an exchange of faith. It’s the confidence we place in others (and ourselves) that represents our belief that our perception of them or our expectations will consistently hold to be tru...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-it-means-to-trust-someone/
Respecting yourself and others in your intimate relationships means that while you strive to express your feelings and opinions, you won’t clobber your partner (or loved ones) with them. Honest...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/how-to-cultivate-and-promote-respect-in-intimate-relationships/
Loving somebody takes knowledge and understanding. As a result, we experience love when we practise vulnerability, compassion and empathy, so to love is giving. We actively choose not to let fear...
To love someone is to know and understand them. It takes time and experience, so that means we have taken the time to care, trust and respect. Love is an action, mentality and attitude, not just ...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-it-means-to-love-someone/
When you pretend to be something you’re not, doing things not because they reflect who you are but because it’s what you’ve always done, what you think is expected, or what you believe will...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/pretending-to-be-something-youre-not-wont-win-you-a-relationship/
So many of us conflate responsibility with blame. It’s no wonder, then, that we struggle to take responsibility or to even know what responsibility is. In this week’s episode of The Baggage ...
We often don’t realise how reliant we are on being ‘strong’ and The Supportive One until we experience discomfort and resistance around expressing our need for help and support. This week�...
Several years back, I got into a deep conversation with a man who avoided closeness with his young son because of his belief (and fear) that either of them could die at any time. He loved his son...
In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about the three vulnerability habits we all need to build on: admitting what we don’t know, admitting when we’ve made a mista...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/podcast-ep-218-three-vulnerability-habits-to-live-by/
If we think of trust as an exchange of faith and giving as an act of generosity that we do based on trust, we quickly see where our sense of reciprocity kicks in. It’s not necessarily that we g...
This year, a chief focus is pushing myself to ask for more help than I’m comfortable with. Thanks to being an over-responsible child who then became an over-responsible adult, I am well versed ...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/asking-for-help-isnt-reserved-for-struggles-and-emergencies/
It’s so easy to fall into that trap of just trying to manage needs and issues on your own, in your head, through your actions to you, and not actually involve anyone else, even when you need to...