Guilt is that sense you have of having committed a wrongdoing. Now, as feelings aren’t facts, feeling you’ve done something wrong isn’t the same as actually having done something wrong. Nev...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/having-needs-and-boundaries-doesnt-make-you-a-bad-person/
Something many of us find baffling is painful, sucky, one-sided relationships that, despite resenting our mistreatment by the other party, we find it challenging to create healthier boundaries an...
There are so many humans struggling due to believing, on some level, that they’re not good enough because of childhood experiences. We misunderstand painful and uncomfortable events, and they b...
Part of being human means that sometimes we will grapple with feelings of resentment. We will simmer and stew about the unfairness of something and harbour ill feelings and grudges. Knowing that ...
Some of us really pride ourselves on being there for others. However, if we don’t also have healthy boundaries and take care of ourselves, we feel drained, overwhelmed, resentful, and burnt out...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/podcast-ep-229-burning-out-from-being-there-for-others/
In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain why we need to change our relationship with rest. Over the last four years since my father passed away from cancer and grief f...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/podcast-ep-219-you-are-allowed-to-rest/
Acknowledging that you have needs is like acknowledging that you breathe. Do you know when you won’t have needs? When you’re dead. From the moment we are born until we die, we have needs....
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/stop-shaming-you-for-having-needs/
One of the challenges that life presents for some of us is knowing where and with whom to invest our good qualities. When we’re driven by being a ‘good person’ and avoiding people’s judge...
Have you felt conflicted about some of the requests you’re dealing with this month due to the season’s festivities? If so, it’s likely due in part to the struggle of that people-pleaser par...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/how-to-deal-with-feeling-obliged-during-the-festive-season/
Sometimes we’re afraid of saying no because we know with every fibre of our being that this is exactly how we feel. And we mistakenly believe that it’s selfish to honour those feelings and di...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/without-disappointment-boundaries-arent-possible/
I turn 42 in a couple of days. I feel like I’m really settling into my forties and embracing something so critical to our wellbeing and relationships: I’m doubling down on listening to myself...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/podcast-ep-150-are-you-afraid-of-listening-to-yourself/
As a recovering people pleaser, I’m all too familiar with how we can feel like some of the most giving, generous people who are often underappreciated for their efforts. When we consider making...
Is there someone in your life who no matter how energised you feel, by the time you’re done engaging, you feel drained out and if you’re feeling low, they max out the last of your energy? Whe...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/dealing-with-drainers-the-folk-who-dump-charge-up/
One of the fears people considering improving their self-esteem and boundaries struggle with is about being “selfish”. They’re so not used to taking care of their own needs, expectations, d...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/knowing-the-line-between-putting-you-first-and-being-selfish/
When we suppress and repress our own feelings, opinions, needs, expectations and desires, we become oversensitised to those of others and develop a pesky habit of taking ownership of their feelin...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/we-need-to-talk-about-selfish/