Feeling worse when you experience the onset of certain emotions or feeling as if you’re trying to anaesthetize feelings you’re attempting to repress, or feeling at a loss as to what to do whe...
Noticing how you’re feeling, thinking and acting is a vital component of increasing self-awareness about what adds to or detracts from your sense of self. Something I’ve learned from years of...
When we view a breakup through the lens of our untruths, we see the undesired outcome as proof of our unworthiness. So many of us mistakenly believe breakups and incompatibility are signs of fail...
In our busy, hectic world, where we often race from one day to the next, boast about being “super busy” and deal with never-ending to-do lists, it’s easy to lose track of how we feel or eve...
When you examine the ways in which humans attempt to feel more valuable and worthwhile, it becomes apparent that we don’t understand what self-esteem is. We keep looking outside of ourselves (e...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/looking-in-not-out-unpacking-the-true-essence-of-self-esteem/
Think of some of the things that you’ve been hard on yourself about. You know, the ones where you’ve called yourself a “fool”, “stupid”, a “failure”, “loser”, “reject” (or...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/breaking-free-of-the-hammer-of-self-criticism/
Experiencing a level of anxiety when we embark on dating again after previous setbacks is entirely normal. We tend to be quite hard on ourselves when we experience it though, exacerbating the anx...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/let-your-anxious-younger-self-know-that-you-have-their-back/
For several months after I passed my driving test last October, each time I had to drive somewhere new or that in my mind was a “scary place” (Clapham Junction, the winding country roads near...
One of the things that can prove to be a tricky balancing act is knowing that line between blame and responsibility. Some people think that they’re one and the same thing but blame, which is re...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/shifting-from-blame-to-taking-responsibility-for-you/
One thing that many of us grownups struggle with is uncertainty. We can find it difficult to not know exactly what’s going to happen next. We want to be able to move through life with the confi...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/stop-letting-fear-of-uncertainty-hijack-your-happiness/
A few weeks back, Em and I shared the school run together. With just under twenty minutes before we were due to leave, I hopped into the shower and he was surprised when not only was I stood a...
When I was a teenager growing up in Dublin and battling with that very typical desire to ‘fit in’, my mother would trot out her standard line,“Would you jump off a bridge if someone told yo...
Some of our strongest ties to even the flimsiest of relationships are based on what we experienced or even hoped for in the beginning. When we’re living in the past because the present has too ...
I’m very much a firm believer that life keeps throwing you lessons and signs until you heed them. I’ve been in variations of the same situation in the past and have learned to start questioni...
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/listening-to-myself-time-for-a-summer-break/
I’ve been at my most miserable when my life is out of whack. Work-life balance, miserable relationship-rest of life balance, worrying about what everyone else wants (family, friends, strangers,...