I left my abusive partner 18 months ago and stopped contact - declined to talk to him or respond after about 3 months. After this I started receiving
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There always seems a lack of money. She is never satisfied with what I provide. There is never enough money. No matter how much there it's never enough.
Hello, She cut all the contact with me, and it was very painful, because I loved her. Through her friends I indirectly found that I've been accused of
Hello Julie, My name is krystal, I am 20 years old, with two wonderful little boys, one is four about to be five, one is almost two months. A year ago
I have previously written another article about my partner, about financial abuse. He also physically abuse me, in many occasion I been to the doctor::
I have been living with my partner for two years, before I meet I had money on my credit card and bank account: he used all of that and now he denies doing
Nola, and to anyone else in the same situation, I have been there. I was a victim of domestic violence, domestic abuse, verbal abuse, coercive control,
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Nola if things go bad you have to promise this to yourself and your kids: that you will leave. You owe it to yourself. You can't live like that again.
Thank You for your interest in financial abuse. I had had a long time partner who had lived in my home with me. My home had been paid off and I had no
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Erin grew up experiencing child abuse and witnessing domestic violence. By 26 she had already experienced far too much child abuse and domestic violence.
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/erin-child-abuse-and-domestic-violence.html
Domestic violence poems about their experiences of and feelings about abusive relationships by survivors of domestic violence and abuse, and the Joy of finally being free of abuse!
I live in abuse everyday. I was diagnosed with bipolar last year when my abuser told me i had to check into the mental hospital or he would kick me out
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/bipolar-justification-for-abuse.html
I know leaving might not be easy, but just as you remember your father beating your mom don't let that be the memory that your daughters and sons have!
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/the-love-for-your-kids-is-stronger-than-anything.html
Hi Julie. My name is Seher. I'm married with 2 kids, they're the world to me. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. If you need someone to talk to,
Julie's domestic violence story comes from a very brave woman, who despite still being a current victim of abuse, still thinks and cares enough about other domestic abuse victims to want to tell ...
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/julie_domestic_violence_story.html
Hi Julie, I really hope this message reaches you. I’ve read the comments and you seem to have gotten better which is outstanding news! My name is Ethan,
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Hi my name is Lisa. I'm 40 years old and have been married for two years to my abuser. I love my husband and I fear my husband. I always wanted to be
My ex narc discarded me about 7 months ago after a 2 month hoover in which I fell for. Said he was only back to socialize. That drove me in to full no
Abused off and on for 9 years. Discarded/devalued more times than I could count. He always hoovered me back in. THIS time ... I'd had enough. His devaluation
Has the No Contact Rule helped with your recovery or helped to keep you safe? What can I say ... years of therapy and the single most important strategy
No Contact: when I finally realized my ex was an N was pivotal in my recovery. I still left openings at first for him to play games and please don't mistake
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/no-contact-is-different-than-no-response.html
For me, the 4th time was the charm and it was actually pretty easy because I was finally ready. I already knew what he was and there was no hope. I already
Rarely in life can you achieve so much by doing NOTHING. And doing nothing is just what going No Contact is. it is NOT returning the calls, not answering
I went out with a man I knew was danger, but I thought I could handle it. Rebellion is my middle name and there was a lot going on that I wanted to escape
I have had to learn not to take any notice of them and what they say, but to BE STRONG. I have been split from my abuser two years, and it's very hard.
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I suffered all of the forms of financial abuse mentioned in the page on financial abuse. But as well as those mentioned, he would withhold money for me
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I feel as though throughout my whole marriage I was stuck in poverty, My husband frequently quit jobs, or took farming or part time jobs, earning little
You can do this. It apparently takes 7 attempts on average to leave an abusive relationship. I had tried to leave so many times. When I finally left
Sorry for this but i want to make this change. Reading through everything you have gone through and continue to go through, I am determined to help make
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Hello this is Julie with a bit of an update for all of you who have so kindly been supporting me with your messages. :) I've found my inner strength!
Just a quick update from Julie. All is well as can be. At least I'm still alive. I'm still in the same situation. Going to make a run from it soon. The
I just want to thank all you guys for your encouraging post and support. I'm still fighting to live, to break this cycle, to be a survivor and no longer
Fifteen years ago I left my abuser, but that was not the beginning of the story! Like so many other stories of abuse mine starts in the home as well,
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/fifteen-years-ago-i-left-my-abuser.html
September 23rd 2014 is and will always be etched in my mind, following me like a bad smell. I'd been with my boyfriend about a year when we went out drinking
This is the end of my first week of no contact. I went silent a week ago on my emotionally and physically abusive N ex girlfriend. I blocked all forms
I have not stopped all contact yet, I have not got to that point yet. I feel so foolish because of my desire to be reasonable, to do what's best for my
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No contact is so hard ... but ... the minute you give in, they go ahead, and try again to manipulate you. I'm 31 and until this day I thought it was all
My husband gradually took control of our finances. It took years and very clever organisation. He hid bank letters and any other mail relating to financial
She would use the household income to buy drugs every day. I would have to struggle to pay bills such as rent, heating and food. It was always..I want
Learn to love and respect yourself - then nobody will be able to take that away from you. It is the first step in healing and moving on from an abusive
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/learn-to-love-and-respect-yourself.html
I was in two abusive marriages which made me feel like a complete loser. I had a career took care of myself and went to work each day like nothing was
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/the-grass-is-always-greener-on-the-other-side-.html
Don't bottle it all up, like I did to begin with, but get it out of your mind by talking. I am twenty years old and a year ago I came out of a two year
It is strange that Domestic Violence can happen to anybody, even to strong persons with merits of character and life history. I am a strong woman who
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/domestic-violence-can-happen-to-anyone.html
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Remember who you were before you got into an abusive relationship. Rememberer the young child full of hopes and dreams and inspiration! That person is
PLEASE LEAVE THIS MAN! You are worth so much more than you think!! A man like that doesn't deserve a penny from you! There is always and will be someone
I was glad to read all about No Contact as this has given me encouragement and confirmation. My ex abuser (narc!) contacted me through email supposedly
Please leave him while you are still strong enough. He will sap that last little bit of you, that resilience that you have lurking within you out over
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/leave-him-while-you-are-still-strong.html
Hello Nola, please learn to grieve the relationship and then leave ... As I am sure you know many women who have been controlled by their partner understand
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/grieve-the-relationship-and-then-leave.html
I am working with my ex narc, which makes going No Contact at all very difficult indeed. And I never understood why he treated me like he didn't know
I am serious about No Contact this time. You see, I broke up with an abuser before and went no contact WITHOUT blocking him. In other words, what I did
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I am not there yet, being able to implement the no contact rule. And the reason I have not got to that point? I feel so foolish that because of my desire