If you’re in university/college in the United States, many/most instructors will expect you to be able to get certain kinds of information from the syllabus. If you send them an email/message a...
It is possible to have nuanced and productive conversations online in text-based interactions. Some of the skills that are important online overlap with the skills that are important offline, eg:...
https://realsocialskills.org/2020/08/06/it-is-possible-to-have-nuanced-and-productive/
Everything gets harder under extreme stress. The situation of constant political crisis we’re living through is extremely stressful situation, and a lot of people are struggling. This is not a ...
https://realsocialskills.org/2018/10/01/struggling-more-with-disability-in-times-of/
I see a lot of people (especially disabled people) hate themselves for struggling with things that they think of as easy, often along these lines: Person: I need to do this thing. Person: It’s ...
https://realsocialskills.org/2018/09/30/calling-hard-things-easy-does-not-make-them-easy/
There are people who look much better than they actually are. They trick other people into admiring them for virtues that they do not actually possess. Sometimes they do this by using their chari...
https://realsocialskills.org/2018/09/03/beware-of-charisma-mirrors/
When marginalized people exist unapologetically in public, some bigoted people say things like “But it will confuse the children!” This is about as ridiculous as saying “Don’t pour water ...
https://realsocialskills.org/2018/08/15/but-it-will-confuse-the-children/
There seems to be a major disconnect about what it means for a conference to have disability representation. I’ve seen a version of this happen a number of times: A panel on diversity or social...
https://realsocialskills.org/2018/08/14/two-ways-in-which-representation-matters/
In the Care Bears movies, the heroes could solve just about any problem by speaking truth to power. Whenever a handful of bears cared enough to act, they could get together and give the villain t...
https://realsocialskills.org/2018/08/13/care-bear-stares-do-not-work-in-real-life/
If a disability professional asks you to come and address their professional group, be very careful — especially if they ask you to “tell your story”. Sometimes disability professionals are...
https://realsocialskills.org/2018/07/06/when-disability-professionals-say-tell-us-your/
Sometimes camps, schools, and other programs for kids think “mother” when they should be thinking “parent or guardian”. In addition to being sexist, this kind of bias can cause a number o...
https://realsocialskills.org/2018/07/05/not-all-parents-are-mothers-a-reminder-to-2/