Since posting my previous article I've done quite a lot of writing on BDSM, but it has been entirely in response to reader emails. I see a steady trickle of them, and do my best to answer the que...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2014/05/on-communication-within-domsub.html
A few years ago, I was dating a submissive girl who lived at the other end of the state. She was delightful and adorable and apparently really kinky, but our early visits were rocky; she would ex...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/10/subs-dont-need-training-but-doms-do.html
To be perfectly honest... I often wish I wasn't romantically and sexually dominant. I'm single, and regularly meet attractive, vibrant, vanilla girls who think I'm an awesome dancer and appealing...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/08/why-doms-and-subs-should-not-date.html
This article sat in the drafts folder for weeks; I found it hard to finish. It forced me to reflect on some things... I'm single, and dislike being so — I'm a better, more effective man when I ...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/06/what-i-look-for-in-submissive-partner.html
I took a break from regular blogging recently because work demands (I'm a computing entrepreneur) had consumed my attention. Then a few days ago, a reader sent me this touching request: > My l...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/03/assuaging-subs-fear-of-abandonment.html
A few years ago, I met a girl online who lived in Southern California. After some days of chatting online, she lobbied me for a phone call. We spoke for five hours. That began what you might call...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/02/emotional-issues-in-domsub-relationships.html
I'm sitting in a packed auditorium, in the conference wing of a Silicon Valley hotel. Representatives of BDSM clubs from the northern half of the West Coast parade across the stage, displaying th...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/02/the-bdsm-scene-not-everyones-kink.html
Your prince is out there, seeking you, hungering for you, wondering where you are. But crouching between you and him are dozens of frogs and trolls. A few of these are even handsome and well-spok...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/02/how-to-interview-dommaster-prospect.html
In my second D/s relationship, my sub and I had different agendas. And we lived in different states. Our second long visit was difficult. I felt badgered, not served. It wasn't malicious on her p...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/01/crossing-line-where-kink-becomes-abuse.html
I simply stumbled into my first D/s romance. At that time in my life, I knew I loved kink—bondage erotica was far more compelling than pretty girls undressed—but I had no clue how to seek a k...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/01/discovering-embracing-revealing-self.html
I once came across a post on a BDSM discussion forum where a dominant man asserted that his "slave" had a single "right" within their relationship: she could leave. I have no idea whether this wa...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/01/essential-rights-for-submissive-partner.html
There is a phenomenon of compelling—or irresistible—but groundless attraction that may occur between a dom & sub early-on in their interactions. I call this D/s Gravity. It must be resisted, ...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/01/the-dangers-of-ds-gravity.html
I've been asked how I know all these Things You Need to Know; whether they're from my own experiences, or other sources. Since the autumn of 2006, when I embraced my dom/top side and began seek...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/01/whos-will-and-why-is-he-expert.html
In intense or stressful situations, humans don't think clearly, and often don't act rationally. People who regularly face high-stress events train to handle them correctly, so they don't need to ...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/01/why-safewords-are-not-safe.html
The skill set required of a dom in a lifestyle D/s relationship is rather different than that for a top in an S&M scene, although there's overlap. The focus of this article is lifestyle doms. (Se...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/01/what-to-look-for-in-bdsm-dommaster.html
On dating sites, submissive women are often inundated with junk messages, many from apparently crazy men. Here's how to cope: Set mail filters, if available. This shunts messages from undesirab...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2012/12/online-dating-tips.html
BDSM glossaries aren't hard to find, but what you need to know when getting started is the most-common styles of kinky relationships. First it's important to note: There is no correct way to pr...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2012/12/bdsm-relationship-variations.html
Subspace is a widespread experience among BDSM subs, and from my own interactions with partners and discussions with friends, it manifests in two distinct forms. I have only seen one of these dis...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2012/12/two-kinds-of-subspace.html
Building and sustaining a D/s romance is hard, sometimes really hard — especially if the dom/sub dynamic is desired outside the bedroom. Here are some reasons why... For the purpose of this d...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2012/12/why-ds-is-hard.html
When I began writing this blog in the Autumn of 2006, I was newly pursuing D/s romance. I was seeking to understand myself, and to meet others making similar journeys. Back then I documented my o...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2012/12/embarking-on-new-journey.html
GENERAL BDSM Relationship Variations Ways that couples mix the elements of S&M and D/s. Discovering, Embracing, Revealing the Self On discovering you’re kinky, your vanilla self may prote...
http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/11/table-of-contents.html